Rekindle your Relationship
Wandering Dirt Roads
Remember that feeling that you’d get as a youngster when mom and dad would leave the house for the evening? I am the youngest of my siblings. When I was young and my parents would go out, there was a certain excitement, because you never knew what fun you might have! (Or get away with!) Of course there were times it wasn’t so fun, but that’s another story. No, no, go back with me to that excited feeling. Yeah, that’s the one. Hold that thought.
“One of the best dates I ever went on with my husband,
is one that he’d never guess. “
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He would probably tell you that it was the time he planned a surprise, romantic weekend getaway for our anniversary (always a good way to rekindle your relationship). That was nice, too. However, there was another time that to me was even more special.
I can’t tell you the day, but it was warm, and he had just come home from work. He said, put your shoes on, we’re going for a drive. Then he informed daughter no. 1 that she was on babysitting detail, and we left. Where were we going? I was a little worried at first. I mean, this wasn’t the usual. The thing is, we weren’t going anywhere. I think we stopped somewhere to buy drinks. Was it slushes, or was it iced coffee? I don’t remember. What I do remember was that feeling!
Rekindle your Relationship
You know that little bit of excitement I described earlier? That’s the feeling I had that evening. Just the thought that we were without the kids, trying to finish our yummy drinks before going back, so they wouldn’t know we’d done that without them! We were doing something kind of sneaky. So what did we do? We drove around on country roads, talking, reminiscing a little, laughing until it began to get dark. That was it. Simple.
I know that’s probably too simple for some, but for me it was perfect. It wasn’t about what I did, it was about who I was with. We needed the time together, without any interruptions (kids) and we didn’t have to have an elaborate date planned to accomplish that.
Restaurants and concerts are noisy. It’s frowned upon in movie theaters to talk. However, a quiet café, walk in the park, or a drive in the country, these are places where you can actually connect, find time together, maybe even rekindle your relationship. That’s what it really takes… setting yourselves up to connect.
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“How to Get Your Husband’s Help and Strengthen your Marriage” and “How to find Fresh Respect for your Husband“
That day my husband was saying to me, “You are important, and I want to show you that by getting time alone with you…while you’re still awake!” (Ha, ha! Tired moms everywhere know what I’m talking about!) “And I don’t want you to have to worry about fixing yourself up and making arrangements for the kids and the dog. Let’s just go be alone together… and…talk.” Yes! Talk! The most important person in my life, wants to listen to me! How attractive is that? Isn’t it refreshing for your spouse to show that they see you as more than just a worn-out mommy? We know it, but we don’t always get confirmation on that.
So let me encourage anyone out there who might be feeling like you’re in a relationship rut, maybe limited by a lack of financial resources, possibly needing to rekindle your relationship – surprise your spouse. Make it simple and spontaneous. They will feel special because you are giving them the most valuable thing that you have to give… your time.
From my nest to yours,
Jo
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